their desire for increased independence their increased desire to be seen as intelligent and knowledgeable crushing. Crushes often make their appearance during these years. The feelings are not sexual; thus, same sex crushes are common and say nothing about a child’s sexuality in adolescence. Invite your child to speak openly about crushes or other social musings, but respect his desire for a private life or his wish to try and work out his problems independently. Disappointment Resignation Resolve Focus
